What makes the world go round: other parents

It was the kindness of strangers that Blanche Dubois relied on, but for people with children, the largesse of other parents makes all the difference in our lives.

This was especially brought home to me this week, with the month-long school break yawning before us, unimpeded by school or any other form of childcare. A friend happily agreed to host a 5-hour playdate today so I can attend an event. Another, several weeks back, booked both of our daughters into a weeklong theatre group camp. Still another stopped me in the playground yesterday and said earnestly, “You’re so busy these days. Do let us know if we can help out. We’ll have your daughter over for a playdate or tea anytime.”

I also try to reciprocate when possible, but it doesn’t always come out even. Which simply highlights the fact that many times it’s other mums (because it’s usually mums) pitching in that is the glue for creating a community of parents.

Too often the “story” about mums is “SAHM v working mums” or “yummy mummies v slummy mummies”. But this week I was reminded (as if I needed reminding) of how valuable it is to have other women who consider your children part of their whole “raising kids” experience. For these women, it’s “no problem” to pick them up when you’re running late. They’re happy to host a playdate and by the way is there anything your child won’t eat?

I find it very moving in a way, and while my husband and I often talk about relocating to another part of town, another city or even another country, this network of friendships is evidence that we have truly put down roots here. We are a part of a community of families, all doing our best. That is somethin I’ll truly be celebrating this Easter break.